Tuesday, June 13, 2006
Welcome to Comfy Couch: Advice, Discussions on Sex, Love and All Types of Relationships
Welcome,
Let me begin by introducing myself and my purpose.
My name is RuKaya. Since I was a young girl, I have been listening to the concerns of everyone who needed an open ear. My heart and my mind has always thrived from helping others see the light at the end of the tunnel.The purpose of this blog is to invite an open discussion, give advice, support and increase our knowledge on the subjects that effect our lives the most. Love,Sex, and Relationship. While I am not a doctor(yet) I believe that the best advice comes from people that have experienced real "drama" in their lives. I have and so have you. Together we will provide a network of "family friends" (as I like to call them) across the world. I have managed to maintain successful relationship throughout my life and I want to encourage you and help you do the same. People come first. We need each other. None of us are as alone as we feel. My duty is to provide you with instructions on how to keep the important people in your life. Starting with you.... Let me help you. I will give you advice that will allow to overcome the most trying situations. I will help you understand your Significant other, family friends, and loved ones. I try to keep each positive and focused. I gain positive energy from her as well as others in my life. We feed off of each other. What about you....? Have you developed any meaningful nonsexual relationship? Do you have issues with trust? Are you "damaged goods"(DG)? Do you lie more than you are comfortable with? How do you really feel about sex ? Do you orgasm? Well I invite you to my Comfy Couch. Take a seat. Lie Back. And let's talk .....
Love is a wonderful thing!
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I have a problem.I want to break up with my boyfriend but he has just been told his mom has terminal breast cancer? Whay should I do?
i have met a person that i feel comfortable around,but this person says they want to be friends and i've called a few times and asked to go out and they say yes,but when it comes down to it they say can't do it or not feeling well .sounds like they just making excuses.what should i do?ask them out again or just stop asking?
I think if a person says they just want to be friends they normally mean just that.Many people use the "friends" label as to not lead a person on. Maybe you should tell the person how you feel about being blown off or perhaps you should just let them get back to you. Sometime not feeling wel or busy can mean just that.Now on the flip side the person just might not want to hurt feeling by telling you the truth. Either way they do not want a romantic relationship with you. Perhaps its time to move on.
Good Luck,
Ms. Kaya
I really like you site idea. It is the first that I have seen. I love it. Not only for the questions that other people have. But because you can read other peoples problems and in most instences, relate them back to your own life. Very good! Keep up the good work!
Question for you and everyone else.
How often does a normal person with a partner have sex???
Hi Amberb,
I don't think there is one great answer for that. Now I have been told from my friends that 3 times a week will suffice. What do you think? Do you feel thats reasonable. I would like to add that it depends on the relationship. What type of jobs do they have? Are there any medical problem? What about the libido of the individuals invovled?
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i have a question regarding that if a guy ask a lady out to a show,dinner,or anything it's always assumed that its for romantic or sexual reasons.can't two people of opposite sex be just friends? i think its always good to have friends from both sexes and it can be just for frienship. am i just assuming that people of opposite sex can just friends?
Ms. Kaya,
I would like to say thank you for taking the time out to touch on some serious issues. Furthermore, I think that sometimes individuals need to be more in tune with themselvs before seeking another. I am a gentleman who has been single for quite some time now, but when women find out that I refuse to have a casual sexual relationship, they often get upset. I feel as though if I meet someone that is the right person for me, I will know it, however, I am prepared to be by myself. Some tell me that I have a trust issue but, those same folks have started off by telling little white lies. Ya boy Cee
what's up Big Cee? Hpw have you been. Let me start with this a lie is a lie is a lie. Thats real talk. However. I agree with a person should be simewha honest. But I feel that lies are human nature. For example, a girlfriend of mine meet a guy who intially told her that he had his own spot. After talking for a feww weeks he admitted that after a bad relationship he moved in with his parents. My girl girl understands why he would he lied about is living situation. Stll, she doesnt see him as a liar and she still is crazy about him and understand why he omitted such infomation. When getting to know someone its and people try to portray themselves as better than they are. This is since the begining of time/ I ahve never met I person to reveal thier flaw on the first. Perhap you do have trust issue. Look for an overall honest person but do not let that p[erson honest deter you from finiding true love . If you want be prepared to handle it.Remember no one is a saint we all have flaws! Perhaps you are sending out warning label with you expectation. We all flaws Cee no one is perfect. It our that make us human.
Cee,
When you say you are prepared to be yourself, are you saying that he reveal that you reveal all of your flaws at the begining of a relationship? Because if you do you are wrong. what you should look for is someone that is going to "hold it down" when time ar rough, You need to look to strengths rather than flaws. Because flaws can be changed. GO in more positve than negative and you will allow a person to reveal thier true selves. I wish you the best. Love is truly blind. Dont allow your needs to run your desires to find true love. COme back soon
Ms Kaya
I have probe my friends for answer to this question on lovers and friends. I think it depends on the people involved. Is this attraction mutual? Are the people invovled in relationships? What type of "friends" are we talking about? Are attracted to each each other? I need more details before I can answer this question? Let me know I will answer...
ms.kaya,
when i say just friends, i mean friends,nothing romantic or sexual.i think its always good to surround yourself with many friends of all sexes and backgrounds.a man should have woman friends they can just talk to and ask advise or vice versa.it always does not have to be sexual or attraction because its opposite sex knowing each other.
Well if you mean just friend yes I think men and women can have platonic relationships. I think its healthy as long as no one is being decieved. Good Luck
LOL. I am a gemini so I can run hot or cold at any given time. For me it depends on how I feel and how the person makes me feel. I have meet people that make me feel as shy as a virgin on prom. I have met people that have made me feel like a lion with an eagle eye view of its prey. I do not normally make the first move. I have asked a guy out before. He was shy and couldnt find the words. I like to be affective on a guy. I man must prove himself worthy of my attention before I will acknowledge him.
I think how you feel is very normal. However, you shouldnty feel threatened or "thrown-off" by a woman that knows what she wants.
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