So...I was at the mall yesterday when I saw my friends ex.Not just any ex but the father of her son. The guy is "hot" in so many ways its a crime. I mean tall, muscular, great masculine structure, and he knows it. While I never spoke to him. I did talk to her later that day and she said he was off limits.I knew that but I wondered why she even put it out there. I never thought he was "within limits." However, I wonderer why. I mean the have been apart for a long time. I never actually met him they broke up before my friend and I met.
All this got me thinking... When is it okay to date your friends ex? Any thoughts?
Monday, June 19, 2006
When its okay to date your ex's friend or your friend's ex?
So...I was at the mall yesterday when I saw my friends ex.Not just any ex but the father of her son. The guy is "hot" in so many ways its a crime. I mean tall, muscular, great masculine structure, and he knows it. While I never spoke to him. I did talk to her later that day and she said he was off limits.I knew that but I wondered why she even put it out there. I never thought he was "within limits." However, I wonderer why. I mean the have been apart for a long time. I never actually met him they broke up before my friend and I met.
All this got me thinking... When is it okay to date your friends ex? Any thoughts?
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well truthfully, when u n ur friend arent friends any more then...... u date the ex. but that could totatly backfire. its sad but dating a friends ex isnt a good idea bc they have a history and they ovb broke up bc things didnt work out.
so try to find sumone eles hotter:D:D, unless the friend is totaly over it n her n her ex are friends; otherwise it gets akwards and kills the friendship.
xo.
I can see where you are coming from. But dont you think it depends on so many factors that you cannot make a hard and fast rule. Never date you friends ex. I mean waht if they only dated for two months, then you ran into two years later?? hmmm
OK, OL Skool, Egos are over-rated. If a person can find happiness with someone you couldnt not why deny them. How a person is viewed by his or her peers is a matter that may require more finess. But appearing thirsty or whorish would depend on the person's peer group or family morals. You may find that your friend is not egotistical. It is best to ensure you are making the right decsion for you and not everyone else. Selfish? hmmmm perhap. dangerous to your freindship maybe. Wrong? No that a moral judgement.
Well put. I agree with your PS. I still dont think its a good idea to date a friends ex. I do think that if you do. You should not make desicion based solely on your carnal desires. Be sure that you feel its completely worth it. Wounds of the heart can heal if love is there to protect the heart.
honestly ps i almost agree with you but here is the thing my friend's ex ended up with another one of our friends but the girl called and asked my friend for kind of permission so I think it is the way you go about it because I once dated a friends ex but they were together for two weeks, she broke it off with him and she was in a serious relatioship with the love of her life when we began dating!
sincerly
Life is 2 short to worry!
My point is exactly that Anon, I feel that love anything can happen. There are too many variabels to just say its not right. Thanks for your comment! :)
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